For Parents In Crisis

One definition of crisis says:

“A crisis is an upset in a steady state causing a disruption or breakdown in a family's usual pattern of functioning. Families in crisis find that their usual ways of coping or problem solving do not work; as a result, they can feel threatened”- Head Start Early Learning and Knowledge Centre

So, what does it mean to know whether you’re in a crisis situation with your teen? On some level it’s almost fair to say that adolescence engenders a period of frequent “storms” of emotion as individuation progresses. It can be a time characterised by necessary growing pains for parents- your child’s journey away from childhood and towards adulthood means that change in your relationship is inevitable- and quite often challenging.

It’s very helpful to know that most temporary crisis situations in families improve over time. Deciding whether and when you need help or support is a personal matter. The intention behind this website is that we’ve created a place where you can find multiple sources of comfort and support to help you get through the challenging times.

If you’re in a chronically stressful situation with your young person where there are high emotions in your household most days, then don’t hesitate to seek professional help. Seeking psychological help is the same as going to your doctor for a physical ailment- there is no need for stigma or shame.

Lastly, it’s crucial where abusive behaviour is present that safety is ALWAYS the first priority. Calling the police, or a trusted person when repeated threats or violence breaks out won’t destroy your family. It can be the one thing that restores safe boundaries.

The flow charts on this page might help you to clarify some common stages – and to think about where to go for support.